17 Unique Attitudes For A Healthy Christian Marriage.

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 It can seem like the perfect storm for a couple's marriage: two good parents with good intentions who have children. 

But for all the good intentions in the world, it's not always easy to live by and even the most well-intentioned parents are sometimes caught up in the chaos of everyday life.

So, I wanted to write about some ways we could help our marriage with a positive attitude so that we could all enjoy life a little more together. 

It's easy to fall into a negative mindset in a marriage when things are not going the way you want them to go, and here are 15 tips to help keep a positive outlook in your marriage 

These tips are not new to the Christian world, but I think it is good to share them with all couples. 

There are times when you may not be able to control what happens in your marriage, but you can control how you handle it.

1. Be Prepared To Forgive.

It is human nature to want to find something to point a finger at when we have been hurt by someone. It's easy to fall into this trap and start to think that our spouse or partner is not a good person or they are not good for us.

The problem with this is that it creates a negative outlook. It might make you angry or upset, and this will cause tension in the marriage.

We are told that "when the Lord your God brings you into the land you are entering to possess it, he will clear the mist from your eyes, and the cloud from your face." (Deuteronomy 11:20)

So, if you are constantly thinking about your spouse's mistakes or faults, you will find it harder to see the good things they are doing. Instead, try to focus on what is going well in your marriage.

And if you are wondering whether your spouse is a good parent, you may need to keep your expectations in check. You might be shocked at what you find out. A parent who behaves poorly can also be a good parent. Try not to let past behavior cloud your view of a good parent.

2. Don't Allow Stress To Eat Your Marriage.

It's inevitable that life will bring some stress to your marriage. No matter how well you try to plan, there will always be unexpected things that happen in life

You may think that all of the stress in your life is a direct result of the way your spouse is acting. But, in truth, stress does not always come directly from bad behavior. Stress comes from a feeling of being overwhelmed or stressed.

If your spouse is the cause of stress, don't automatically believe that the source of stress is your spouse. There may be other causes. It may be something you need to work on.

What is your spouse doing that stresses you out? Can you talk about it? Is there a way to better manage the stress?

3. Pray Together.

A lot of couples tend to get lost in the daily routine of life without spending time together. There may be many reasons for this, but in many cases, it comes from a lack of communication.

There is an ancient teaching that says we should spend time with our spouses "as though we would be with the Lord." (Ephesians 5:28)

If you find yourself drifting from one routine to another, try to schedule some time to spend with each other. You do not need to schedule every minute, but you should set aside an hour or two at least once a week.

Just being with each other will help you have a positive outlook. This will make you a better husband or wife.

We rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.- Romans 5:3-4

4. Be Understanding.

Your spouse does not understand what you are going through right now, and you do not understand what they are going through.

If you feel this way, you have to be prepared to love them even if you do not understand.

When you have some of the same struggles in life, you must be willing to understand each other. you should be prepared to learn how to communicate better and be understanding of what each of you are going through.

There will always be different challenges in life and different stresses that you will have to endure. To keep a positive outlook in your marriage, you must learn to be understanding of each other's issues.

5. Talk About Your Feelings.

Your feelings are valid, and you are allowed to express them. Even though you feel different emotions at times, you must work to understand what your spouse is feeling 

You must learn to be a good listener and not let emotions get the best of you. There may be times when your emotions overtake you, and you are not thinking clearly.

If you are going through some major issues in life and are not understanding what your spouse is going through, it may be wise to reach out for counseling to help with communication and understanding.

But if you are struggling with a daily issue, it is best to try to keep a positive outlook in your marriage.

6. Be Willing To Work On The Relationship.

Too often in our relationships, we try to wait until the problem arises before we work on the relationship. It's much better to work on the relationship before you have problems.

We must work on our relationship so that we have an understanding of each other. If you are not willing to talk to your spouse and work on a relationship, you will never understand each other.

Paul wrote about the value of working on our relationship. He wrote about a time when he was afraid and did not know what to do. But he knew that he needed to work on his relationship and take his concerns to the Lord

It is much easier to work on our relationship when the issue is not immediate. This is why it is important to speak with your spouse about daily issues.

you have the opportunity to start to repair the relationship by having some open conversations with each other.

When you see things differently, you will be able to see past differences and focus on what is going right in your marriage. It's possible to keep a positive outlook in your marriage by focusing on the positive in your relationship.

7. Be Positive In The Relationship.

When your attitude is negative, it shows in how you act and in how you communicate.

Your relationship will not improve if you do not have a positive outlook on life. It can seem impossible to stay positive when things are going badly in your relationship, but you must learn to remain positive.

There are times when you will be in a negative mindset about your life. Even though it is important to have a positive outlook, you still need to have a plan for how you are going to deal with negative feelings.

When we are having negative feelings, we need to try to understand them. When you understand what you are feeling, you are able to control your behavior and speak more effectively to your spouse.

One way to handle negative feelings is to write them down. If you find yourself constantly looking for something to complain about, just be honest about what you are feeling.

It is easy to get caught up in negative emotions. When we feel negative, we do not see the positive aspects of life,

We must be willing to focus on the good things in life. Positive thinking is a great way to keep a positive outlook in your marriage. If you think of the good things in your life, it will bring you to a positive state of mind.

8. Be thankful.

Have you ever found yourself complaining about what is going on in your life? If so, you are not being a grateful person.

As Christians, we are to be thankful in every situation. As you look at your situation and find that there is something to complain about, take time to be thankful for the things you are blessed with.

We are not perfect and our lives are not easy. We all have problems, but being positive helps us to manage our stress and gives us peace.

When you are being thankful, you will be a better husband or wife. You will have a better attitude.

It is easy to complain, but the truth is that there is always something we are blessed with. No matter how bad things may seem, it is possible to think of all that you have.

 

What are you thankful for? Take a few minutes and think about the good things in your life. You will be a better person if you look at the positive aspects of your life.

9. Avoid Negative Attitudes.

It's easy to have a negative attitude about something we see going wrong in our marriage. It can be easy to point a finger at your spouse and accuse them of wrong behavior.

I want to encourage you today to avoid the negative attitude and to be a positive person. It is never wise to be negative when trying to improve a relationship.

Be a positive person and avoid the negative. It will help you be a better wife and mother. Your spouse will see that you are more approachable when you are a positive person.

10. Be Honest.

If you are honest, you will be a good person. If you are not honest, you will be a liar.

Honesty is an important characteristic in a person. It is not wise to act dishonestly in your marriage. If you are in a relationship, you will need to be honest.

One of the best ways to learn how to be a good person is, to be honest. If you have an issue, it is best, to be honest about what is going on. It may take some time to correct the situation, but in the end, honesty will be the best policy.

11. Be Happy Together. 

It's important to not get caught up in the daily routine of your life. You may be so busy doing what needs to be done that you forget to be happy.

I encourage you to take some time to be happy in your marriage. Do things that make you happy.

Take a walk together. Sit down and read a book. Watch a movie together. Go to a favorite restaurant. Talk to your spouse about the happy things in your life.

If you focus on being happy together, you will find yourself more relaxed and less stressed out.

12. Be Patient.

Do not rush into something and expect immediate results. Patience is a virtue. If you wait to take action, you will accomplish your goal more quickly.

Think of a situation where you had to wait for something, and you experienced results much more quickly than you would have if you had taken action immediately.

Patience is a virtue, but you have to be patient with yourself. Do not expect things to change immediately. You will see your results more quickly if you are willing to be patient.

13. Focus On Your Strengths.

You have strengths and abilities. Don’t look at your weaknesses. Instead, look for your many strengths and work on improving on them. 

If you’re going through a rough patch, ask yourself, “What is something I do really well?”

 Look for those qualities you have and work on improving them. God wants you to see strength and not failure, The Bible says, 

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me – Phil 4:`13

14. Be Open.

Do not hold back when you have an issue to talk to your spouse about. If you are afraid that your spouse will not agree with you, speak up and bring it up.

We should always be willing to talk about important issues in our lives. If your spouse is unwilling to discuss a topic, you should bring it up and talk about it.

If you feel uncomfortable about something, you must share it. If you are going through an issue and think your spouse might not be on your side, talk about it. Being open will help you find the answers to some of your problems.

15.Understand Your Uniqueness And Personality.

As a wife, it is important to be understanding of your husband or wife. A wife must learn to understand her husband and his personality. She must learn to love her husband and be understanding of his weaknesses.

The same holds true in the relationship between a husband and wife. The husband must learn to understand his wife and her personality. Husbands must be understanding of the different ways their wives can approach

Conclusion

As a Christian, a positive attitude in your marriage is like oxygen to your breath. A daily positive attitude gives you the foundation you need to build a healthy marriage.

 It allows you to think about your marriage and yourselves in a very positive way. How can you do that? By setting goals, by doing things that are important to you as you have seen in this post.

 A positive attitude is contagious. This means that you will attract positive people into your lives, which will, in turn, inspire you to live in a positive way. This is God’s will for every one of His children. 

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not evil, to give you an expected end  – Phil 29:11